Gossips,Judgements,Blamegames...!!!

Today in my house, there were arguments, discussions, judgements, conclusions..etc.. Not that this does not happen often, but today I want to express what I really feel about it. We all gossip about people, mainly relatives and sometimes very close relatives. Sadly. it does not stay at gossip level, it extends to making judgements, blamegames and what not !! Not that I have not done all these myself in the past... when you actually sit to gossip about someone the excitement doubles and you find it as the best timepass in the world and we also feel that we are talking about the most constructive thing by pointing out about others and their behaviour and somewhere inside our mind.. we also feel proud of ourselves that we are better than them !! I must say most of the people who do judegements and blamegames are the most insecured creatures... or they need a constant dose in the form of these blamegames to prove that they are better than others..!!

Coming back to my point, today I heard people talking about how others should make a decision about a particular event, how they should behave with others, how they should talk.... the list goes big. I was thinking that, these people who made the comments.. did they ever analyse their decisions, behaviours etc and rectify them to adjust with the immediate family that they live with..forget relatives... Does a human being ever have a right to talk about how another human being should live? We can guide someome if we think that they are putting wrong steps, but we can never judge them on the basis of the steps they are taking... because for all we know... that could be the best step for their life!!.. There are exceptions in every case and here I am talking about the general mass and not exceptional scenarios !!

One more habit of people(sometimes including myself) that annoys me, interrupt any conversation in the middle and abruptly stop the conversation of the person who was talking and immediately start with yours OR when there is a discussion happening about a subject everyone is eager to share their experiences and thoughts and least bothered to listen to others !! Sounds pathetic.. isnt it? Are we all such a impatient people OR is it self-assertion??? I think its both.

Todays incident has strongly clutched in my mind and what I have learnt is henceforth I will consciously not involve myself in any such useless discussions of accusing ,blaming or making judgements about others. When I do this the only question keeps echoing in my mind always is.....afterall who am I to accuse others or who am I to set any rules on how one should behave?

This post might not make any sense to most of the narrow thinkers.. but who cares.. I am not here to convince anyone...

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