Intention was Right, approach was Wrong ... !!

Being wise in life will not come from experiencing two or three bitter things in life. It comes from a continuous thought process and the lessons that we gather from our earlier mistakes and essentially by not repeating them. Yesterday when I spoke to my inlaws about some family issues, I happened to tell them few things that I have heard about them from someobody. My intention was purely to get things sorted out between two parties and make them feel better about each other. I failed to realize that being frank does not work with everyone as people may not have the capability to think broad and put themselves in others shoes. The age also matters, most of our older generation has always liked to believe what they have been taught rather than analyzing or logically reasoning it out. A third person entering a fight will never resolve any issues. It will only aggravate the situation. Open communication does not mean I should talk on behalf of somebody else. I think open communication helps only when the two effected parties speak face to face. Also, it was the way I spoke.. it was so straight that it was obvious that they were hurt and it only made it more miserable for them. I need to learn how to talk to different age group of people and even if I want to communicate on behalf of someone else I need to make sure the conversation is more on a diplomatic way rather being personal. I thought I was good at talking sensitive issues. I have realised that I am pathetic and I have a big scope for improvement. I have realised its easy to be staright forward but not easy to be smart in dealing both sides without creating any further damages. My intention was pure and it was to see both the parties live happily and in peace together. My intentions were right but the approach was not justifiable for my own conscious. Hope someday, I will learn to deal with people and their emotions.

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