Irritating moments

It irritates me when my parents fight with each other. Sometimes when I call them, I find them fighting over silly past stuff. My mom's points are right but to her unfortunate fate my dads ego never lets him to surrender to her that he was wrong and he has made mistakes in past which has hurt her deeply. He says what is the point going back to 25 yrs. In a way it is true, but what about those young years that are lost without having any fun, any enjoyment and no sense of feeling together and being for each other. I am sure this is the case in 60% of the marriages, as it grows older, the charm starts fading. What surprises me is my dad's attitude about how he is right all the time. He does not give credit to mom's sacrifices. Or I will say he does give credit, but it is not consistent and subject to instant changes in opinion. Of course, no one wants to be blamed and when my mom continously nags about past, he looses his temper. If you think from his perspective, its correct.. whats the point to go back in time which cannot be changed anyways. But if you look at my moms perspective, I guess she just wants him to show a remorsefull attitude than 'I dont care' attitude. After 27 yrs of marriage I dont think the frequency still matches exactly the way it should have been.

Surprisingly,even after such cat fights, what inspires me is the survival of my parents marriage and very well together. I dont know nor want to analyse who sacrificed for who for it to be surviving so far, but inevitably both of them commited to each other.

How in our generation marriages dont survive and how we fight over smallest of things. I definetly know that commitment is what most of the people in our generation lack and thats why we see so many divorce around us. Not that I am against the idea of divorce, afterall what makes u happy is what matters. All said, the indian society has this conventional views which is very tough to be ignored.

Irritation is easily triggered by any small or big uneasy event, but for me sometimes it gets into the nerves and makes me impulsive. Learning to control irritation will be a great help to lead a happy life.. as for me I am trying and will keep trying...

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